People who don’t tip or don’t tip well baffle me.
To begin, my family, for lack of a better term, does not come from means. We are not well-to-do and my parents made numerous sacrifices to support me in every way possible. Even so, whenever we went out to eat, I always noticed my mother and father deliberate over the tip- consistently leaving at least between 18 and 20 percent (if the service was sub-par, they would decrease to 15 percent) for the server.
As a recent college grad, money is no doubt tight for me. However, whenever I do go out to eat with a friend, or go to a bar, I ensure that I leave a tip between 15 and 20 percent. Every time. My philosophy: if I can buy an eight dollar burger and a three dollar beer, I can throw down a few bucks for the person who brought me my order.
When someone is providing you a service, you should tip them. Case closed. I tip the server when I go out to eat, I tip the stylist when I get my hair cut, etc.
Today, I read an article a friend posted on Facebook, and the comments appalled me. People claimed that they didn’t understand why 14 percent is a low tip. Some even commented that they rarely leave a tip.
Why does this vex me so much? I am not a server, nor have I ever been one. I think it is simply because I like to see that everyone is treated with basic decency and respect. Besides for saying “please” and “thank you,” the only way to properly thank a server for his or her hard work is to tip. Also, a lot of my good friends have been servers at a variety of restaurants, and they have to deal with a lot of really rude people and horrible circumstances beyond their control.
Below are some excuses I have heard from friends and acquaintances as to why they do not tip, or do not tip well:
- “The service was slow.” This is a double edged sword. If it takes over a half hour to get food on a Tuesday at 3 p.m., I would definitely decrease the value of tip. If I am at Red Robins on a Friday night at 6:30 p.m. and I see that there are five large birthday parties going on around me, I would not. Restaurants get busy, especially during peak hours. Don’t blame your server, blame yourself for choosing to eat right then and expecting the whole ordeal to take 20 minutes.
- “My waitress/ waiter got my order wrong.” Have you ever gotten in trouble for something you didn’t do? It sucks, right? While sometimes servers make errors while entering in orders, the kitchen staff makes errors too! It is hard to cook every single burger the right way when you are standing in front of a grill for multiple hours. However, the servers, as the liaison, always get the blame. Keep that in mind next time your order is slightly wrong.
- “It took me forever to get my drink.” See number one. Also, what is your server supposed to do? Use magic to make an apple martini appear table side within seconds. Your server needs to go to the bar to get drinks. That takes time. Also, stop pretending like you are the only person in the establishment. Your server has other customers.
- “I can’t afford it.” What? You can afford a meal but two or thee extra bills are going to break the bank for you? Just stay home. Or order Chinese. I especially hate people who say this, but who order the most expensive meals, and then still don’t tip. Yes, that lobster is in your budget and that really delicious Jackberry Smash, but NOTHING ELSE!
- “I didn’t go to a nice restaurant, so I don’t have to.” Who created this rule? It doesn’t even make sense. Just because a server works at a IHOP and not a Ruth’s Chris Steakhouse doesn’t mean he or she is working any less diligently.
- “I’ll just throw my change down, that’s fine.” No, it’s not. Try to at least tip 15 percent. That is standard.
- “They don’t tip in other countries.” Well, unless you are dining in Amsterdam while reading this, please leave a tip. Also, a lot of European countries pay their servers a full salary, so tips are not an issue. That is not the case in America, where servers make way less than minimum wage at many restaurants.
This list can literal go on, but you get the point. I know some people will read this, and disagree. That is unfortunate. But I feel that these points needed to be said.
You can see really bad tip stories here.